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Wednesday, 15 February 2012

  • my life right now

    I just feel like unloading right now, especially since I have to work in ten minutes. Soooo..... I am so feaking tired. I know others have it worse and I know it could be worse but can't a girl get some sympathy for her situation right now?

    Apparently not...

    Things came to a head when I cried in the dining room this morning. Yeah_ like tears rolling down my face, cried.

    That's how tired I was...of course the catalyst for this unusual situation was the fact that my uncle was being a butt, but that happens all the time and usually it's not enough to totally end my good mood...which between you and me, not all that good to begin with.

    And I feel better, not enough to clock in but whatever....

    Sometimes life beats me up but then I giddyup_smile on my pretty mug cause I'm a star.

    Deuces.

Thursday, 10 November 2011

  • Debate

    I just read a post on a very interesting blog called: How I wish the homosexuality debate would go. 

    It was informative, and in my opinion the "pastor" was a very accommodating person. The "host" was not. I enjoyed reading it...My favorite passages were as follows:

     

    "Pastor: (smiling) If you think my position on homosexuality is radical, just wait until you hear what else I believe! I believe that a teenage guy and girl who have sex in the backseat of a pick-up are sinning. The unmarried heterosexual couple living down the street from me is sinning. In fact, any sexual activity that takes place outside of the marriage covenant between a husband and wife is sinful. What’s more, Jesus takes this sexual ethic a step further and goes to the heart of the matter. That means that any time I even lust after someone else, I am sinning. Jesus’ radical view of sexuality shows all of us up as sexual sinners, and that’s why He came to die. Jesus died to save lustful, homo-and heterosexual sinners and transform our hearts and minds and behavior. Because He died for me, I owe Him my all. And as a follower of Jesus, I’m bound to what He says about sex and morality.

     

    ...

    Host: But who are you to condemn someone who doesn’t line up with your personal beliefs about sexuality?

    Pastor: Who am I? No one. It’s not all that important what I think about these things. This conversation about homosexuality isn’t really about my personal beliefs. They’re about Jesus and what He says. I have no right to condemn or judge the world. That right belongs to Jesus. My hope is to follow Him faithfully. That means that whatever He says in regard to sexual practices is what I believe to be true, loving, and ultimately best for human flourishing – even when it seems out of step with the whims of contemporary culture.

     ...

    Pastor: I think Jesus’ teaching on sexuality shows us that there is something wrong with all of us – something that can only be fixed by what Jesus did for us on the cross and in His resurrection. That said, I understand why people might think I am attacking them personally. Most people with same-sex desires believe they were born with these tendencies. That’s why they often see their attraction as going to the very core of who they are, and so they identify themselves with the “gay” label. So whenever someone questions their behavior or desires, they take it as an attack on the very core of their being. That’s usually not the intent of the person who disagrees with homosexual behavior. But that’s the way it is perceived. I understand that.

    ...

    Pastor: Well, we really don’t know for certain about sexual attraction being innate and set from birth. All we have is the testimony of people who say that they’ve experienced same-sex desires since childhood. Christianity teaches that all people are born with a bent toward sin. It’s possible that some people will have a propensity toward alcohol abuse or angry outbursts, while others may have a propensity toward other sins. Regardless, Christians believe people are more than their sexual urges. We believe that human dignity is diminished whenever we define ourselves by sexual urges and behaviors. Consider this: married men are sometimes attracted to multiple women who are not their wives. Does this mean they should self-identify as polygamists? Not at all. And surely you wouldn’t consider it hateful for Christians to encourage married men notto act on their desires in an effort to remain faithful to their spouses. It is the Christian way, after all.

    Host: No, but it still seems like you are telling people not to be true to who they are.

    Pastor: It only seems that way because you believe sexual desire reflects the core of one’s identity. It would help if you and others who agree with you would understand that in your putting pressure on me to accept homosexual behavior as normal and virtuous, you are going to the very core of my identity as a follower of Jesus. The label most important to me is “Christian.” My identity – in Christ – is central to who I am. So I could say the same thing and call you intolerant, bigoted, and hateful for trying to change a conviction that goes to the core of who I am as a Christian. I don’t say that because I don’t believe that’s your intention. But neither should you think it’s my intention to attack a homosexual person or cause them harm merely because I disagree.

    Host: But the problem is, your position fosters hate and encourages bullying.

    Pastor: I recognize that some people have mistreated homosexuals in the past. It’s a shame that anyone anywhere would mock, taunt, or bully another human being made in God’s image. That said, I think we need to make one thing clear in regard to civil discourse: To differ is not to hate. I hope we can still have a real conversation in this country about different points of view without casting one another in the worst possible light. The idea that disagreeing with homosexual behavior necessarily results in harm to gay people is designed to shut down conversation and immediately rule one point of view (in this case, the Christian one) out of bounds. As a Christian, I am to love my neighbor and seek his good, even when I don’t see eye to eye with my neighbor. Furthermore, the picture of Christ on the cross dying for His enemies necessarily affects the way I think about this and other issues."

    http://trevinwax.com/2011/10/18/how-i-wish-the-homosexuality-debate-would-go/

     

    Then I read the comments. Some were telling the author that it was spot on and great job! Others were condemning the author for taking a biblical stand on homosexuality and proved their own intolerance by their hateful words. Not only to the author of this post but also to those who respectfully commented. I think the thing that got me most-surprisingly enough it wasn't the most hateful and ignorant of those who offered their 2 cents but it was the ones who cited science without citing any research. 

    I'm a college educated person and the first rule of an argument is citation. So in that frame of mind I looked up some actual journals dealing with the science behind homosexuality. And this is what I found:

    All results were inconclusive. 

    Biology first: (http://www.narth.com/docs/bioresearch.html)

    It is important to note that serious research on the biology, innateness, or genetic determinants of homosexuality has only just recently begun. Exactly opposite to what the public is being led to believe, the research that has been done thus far suggests that genetic factors account for, at most, but a small proportion of the risk. J. M. Bailey and R. C. Pillard, two of the major researchers most widely cited as having demonstrated that "homosexuality is genetic," were forced to admit otherwise by the results of their own research. They themselves wrote:

    These studies were designed to detect heritable variation, and if it was present (emphasis mine), to counter the prevalent belief that sexual orientation is largely the product of family interactions and the social environment.... Although male and female homosexuality appear to be at least somewhat heritable, environment must also be of considerable importance in their origins.
    Ok well since Biology doesn't seem to be the main player let's check out psychology (http://allpsych.com/journal/homosexuality.html):

    We have examined many causes for homosexuality in the preceding pages, both biological and social.  And although an interesting topic of debate, no one theory or experiment leads to a definitive answer.  Some believe that the characters found on Xq28 are the Holy Grail of homosexuality research, the elusive 'gay gene'.  Others may place stock in the theories of Foucault and Halperin.  Perhaps Simon LeVay did reveal to us that anatomy is the key to understanding the difference in sexual orientation.  Perhaps there is no one answer, that sexual orientation, whether homosexual or heterosexual; gay, straight, lesbian, or bisexual, all are a cause of a complex interaction between environmental, cognitive, and anatomical factors, shaping the individual at an early age.

      Research must be done to form a conclusive argument and it just grates my cheese when people tell me something that they haven't done any study on. 

    As for the other hateful comments: 

    I agree wholeheartedly with what the "pastor" says:

    "My identity – in Christ – is central to who I am. So I could say the same thing and call you intolerant, bigoted, and hateful for trying to change a conviction that goes to the core of who I am as a Christian. I don’t say that because I don’t believe that’s your intention. But neither should you think it’s my intention to attack a homosexual person or cause them harm merely because I disagree."

    I'm not your judge or your Maker. But my opinion is based on the Bible. And on that I stand. You can disagree, I won't force you to think the same way I do. But please for the love of cheese, do not call me hateful because my opinion differs from yours. That shows ignorance and a unwillingness to view anyone else's opinion. Which is what christians in the United States today have been accused of. And Christianity has been raked through the mud because of what other's view as "intolerance". 

    People practice all sorts of religions and I don't judge. I'm not going to say I agree because I am a Christian so obviously I don't agree with a different view. But I won't attack you simply because of the difference in views. I'm not that kind of a person or christian. 

    I had to get that off my chest. It was bugging me. 

     

Monday, 19 September 2011

  • Proper Customer Etiquette When Going through the Drive-Thru

    I'm fed up. I am completely fed up, and I love meeting new people and actually working (well maybe not LOVE but I'm pretty content for the time being) at a drive-thru I realize that I am expected to:

    1) keep my beliefs to myself

    2) be polite even when the customer is not polite to me

    3) be fair and unbiased in all business transactions

    4) be able to keep my cool in any and all situations... and

    5) go above and beyond what I am 1] getting paid and 2] expected to do for my clients.

    Well fair's fair and I think that I deserve a chance to tell you what I expect from you when you come rolling up in your car to my window. 

    1) Have what you want in mind when you come to my window. 

    It's all nice and good for you to take a few seconds to solidify your order but remember this is the drive thru at a FAST food restaurant. That means time is money and money is everything. People can get fired for taking too much time to get people through the drive thru. The perfect time for each car (whether your order is 20, 40, or even 1 dollar; is less than 130 seconds. And you taking 5 minutes to decide what to eat is really unnecessary. Come inside if you have no idea. The only time you can take that long in drive thru is before we close. Even then time is money and my bosses are looking at me not you. 

    2) Call in a large order and don't order 50 bucks worth of food at the window. That's totally not kosher. 

    Again time is money. Money is time. I don't have time to take an order that's 10 inches of receipt paper long. That's not fair to me or the guy behind you that only wants a drink. Call it in and come inside. We'll be more than happy to accommodate you. I promise. 

    3) Change is good only if it's a dollar or two.

    You know that 5 bucks in pennies you have? Yeah? Well... trade it for dollar bills before coming through the drive through. I have to count ALL of it before you leave my window. Again-this is my job and if my drawer is short that could be grounds for instant termination. I don't know about you but I like getting paid. And don't get mad at me because you're in a hurry and all you have is change. 

    4) Credit Card machines are the devil's children.

    They run on internet. If the internet is slow then the machine is slow so yeah I'm keeping your card until I see the little approved signal. And I am not a magical internet fairy that can magically fix the internet when you use your credit card. I don't know a lot about how the internet works-chances are you don't either-so don't expect it to be magically fixed in 12 seconds when I tell you we're having a problem with the machine. 

    5) Waiting.

    If you order something FRESH be prepared to wait a while. I'm not allowed to sell anything uncooked, cold, or half baked so no I'm not going to speed the time up just for you because you want it FRESH. Fries take at least 3 minutes, and chicken takes 6 minutes or longer depending on the type you've purchased. By saying the wait is ok at the speaker -you have told me you are prepared to wait. So don't pull that I didn't know it was going to take that long on me. I know I told you. 

    6) The speaker is also of the devil. 

    This one has several parts.

    part a) Your truck and you. 

    If your truck is loud when you cut it on then chances are you're going to have to cut it off when you come through. Point blank-period.

    part b) Our speaker is broken and has been for a few years.

    If I ask you to repeat yourself then you may have to get loud. Mumbling your order, and rushing through it are not going to guarantee that I'll be able to get it down without a few mistakes so don't get  upset if you can't enunciate. Speak clearly and speak up.

    part c) Confirmation anyone?

    If the confirmation screen does not confirm your order then ask me to repeat it back to you. You don't have to tell me it doesn't work-my bosses are already aware of this...call the 1-800 number if you want to complain. Maybe then something will actually get done. 

    part d) Repetition...I'll start... 

    Everything I repeat back to you is what I have. If you do not hear something you ordered then it's not on the receipt. And you can totally believe that if you've already paid for the meal -you WILL pay for that extra item if it's not on the original order.

    part f) Oh and I have one more order...

    This pisses me off more than anything. If you already know you have more than one order on two separate tickets then say so before beginning the first order. Then take the time to acknowledge the first order's total BEFORE beginning the second order. This is more annoying than anything to me:

    "And I have a second order"

    "Alright the total for your first order is-"

    "He'll have a ..."

    Didn't your mom. your teacher, your grandma, your aunt, uncle, cousin, guardian, etc. ever teach you that interrupting someone is rude??? If not ...then it is. You still need to know how much you gotta pay.

    This is not the end...but I just wanted to thank the customers who are nice, and patient, and appear to be understanding even if deep down inside they are not. Part 2 to come up in the next day or so...Deuces. 

     

     

Wednesday, 14 September 2011

  • Cookies!!

    I love to cook. It's a not so secret, secret that I have ^^

    Today I made shepherd's pie: cilantro (wish I had parsley -oh well...), green bell peppers, onions, hamburger meat, and potatoes. And we can't forget the sour cream, butter, and cheddar cheese either (mmmm cheeseeeeee).

    It came out of the oven bubbling. And it is sooooooooooo good! Not bad for spicing up a family recipe ^^ I just wanted to brag.

    Miz G out.

Tuesday, 19 July 2011

  • Evil Hair

    So I found out that I do have something to say today. I was just lurking around on my own weblog page. I straightened my hair today. I wonder how many people are going to see that sentence and go 'big deal'... Well it kinda is a big deal to me. It took a little over 2 hours to flat iron my hair and that's not including washing it and conditioning it and blow drying it all before I even saw that flat iron, let alone use it. It looks pretty decent. I decided that I'll curl it tomorrow-anything to make sure I didn't put undue stress on it any more today.

    And again I'm sure that a multitude of the people that would actually read this will think 'why is this chick so excited about her hair'? Well other than the time and effort that I put into it nowadays...it's just gotten pretty long and I'm really excited that it's growing and though it's still evil it looks pretty darn pretty today. That's really all I wanted to say. It's growing and that I kinda can't believe that it took about 2 hours to flat iron it. Granted, I was watching Aliens 2 and that may have something to do with the 2 hour flat ironing. ...nah ^^ Well gotta get ready for church so I'm cutting this short today. 

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